A short list of things girls and women do to shake up the power in relationships would include:
- Giving the silent treatment
- Reacting hysterically
- Throwing up accusations unrelated to the matter at hand
- Claiming offense (i.e., "That's offensive." "You've offended me.")
- Treating someone icily until they admit "fault" or apologize
- Inviting other females to defend or pile on
It's all so dramatic. And, quite frankly, tiresome. Any of the above might help you get your way in the short term especially with people who do not know how to handle displays of extreme emotion, but it will not endear you either to the person who has to deal with it directly or any bystanders. Making things uncomfortable - well, makes things uncomfortable. And guess who doesn't care to be in uncomfortable situations - just about anyone. Except perhaps other drama queens.
Emotional thinkers are everywhere, and they do not often respond well to logical appeals to knock off what seems to be a winning strategy. We need, then, more people who will simply not tolerate it and will call girls on their manipulative behavior. If you know girls who do this and you are in any position of authority, put your foot down. Make it painful for them to continue this form of emotional masturbation. And if you are the drama queen and love the power of these types of displays, do remember that with every power play, your receptive audience diminishes. Eventually you will have to find another theater or do a monologue.